The seven deadly sins of life

Where hope grows, miracles blossom.

Elna Rae

In life, there are a great many things we should not do unless of course, we want to get hurt. From touching hot stoves to disturbing beehives, and unwisely spending money lavishly there is an army of things one can do to bring oneself closer to a state of suffering much further away from happiness and true success.

Out of these great many possibilities to ‘err’ in life, I bring you seven, which, if you ever find yourself committing will definitely accelerate you away from becoming successful and experiencing the true wonders of happiness. So without any further delay, here are the most significant things I want you to always remember never to do. They, in no particular order of importance, are:

  • 1. Living your life on other peoples terms

Never ever put yourself under the social pressure of having to please others. Even if you tried you’re fated to fail because firstly, you can never please everyone, and secondly, if you could–please everyone that is–you’d most likely not be pleased with yourself. The statistics of my personal experiences have shown that no matter how hard you try there will always be someone who’ll cry from your behavior.

So rather than attempting to please others and live up to their expectations of you, experts recommend you try to fulfill your own objectives and expectations instead. Not only is it much easier it’s also healthier because this way you may steer the ship of your peace of mind clear of destructive and depressive waves.

At the end of the day, when you’re on your death bed and your last breath is leaving you, and you retrospect upon your life you are the only one who will regret living other people’s lives and not your own.

And so, in order to avoid that fatalistic end, realize you are the only one who really knows yourself. So you should have faith in yourself and guide yourself according to your dreams and aspirations. You should live life on your own terms.

  • 2. Not taking risks

Every chess player worthy of their pay knows that sometimes you’ve got to sacrifice your queen to checkmate the enemy king. Sacrificing is not always guaranteed to win, it’s a huge risk because your opponent may surprise you with a response you hadn’t anticipated. Usually, though, well-calculated sacrifices generally lead to greater rewards. This is true not just in chess but in life as well.

In terms of life, taking risks doesn’t have to involve scary life-death situations. A risk doesn’t have to be drastically life-altering to be rewarding. Most times, a small risk like trying something new can have an astronomical effect in that it leads you to discover what exactly you’re meant to be doing.

So never shy away from taking risks. It definitely won’t be easy, but always be ready to try new challenges. Don’t fear the unknown, explore it, and seek out those things within it which you’re passionately interested in, those things that set your heart racing in excitement and your mind pacing in curiosity.

  • 3. Letting petty things ruin your mood and peace of mind

Just like iron filings are at times attracted towards a magnet and sometimes repelled away from it, so sometimes, in life, things go our way, and sometimes they just don’t. You need to accept this and not let many of the things you encounter in life stress you out. Most of them you’ll find are not even worth worrying about. Worrying about them just poops on your good mood, all for nothing.

Rather, you should focus your energies on the things that matter and that are in your control. Petty things which we fret over on a daily basis, mild inconveniences, coupled with things not going according to plan don’t actually require plenty of concern. So never flush your peaceful experiences down the toilet by worrying about things that have already occurred, may never happen, are out of your control, or aren’t actually important.

  • 4. Basing your happiness off external factors

We live in a capitalistic and materialistic society that promotes the notion that we need the latest smartphone and the most expensive cologne to be happy. We live in a world where people utter things like ”I can’t live without you” and ”without you I’m not happy”. Although I see and appreciate the romantic spirit within expressions like these, I strongly advise against making other people or things master over our happiness. Happiness based on external things does not last.

Happiness as the cliche goes ”is a state of mind”. Happiness is something born and bred within an individual. No amount of material wealth will permanently cure a sad heart. The only way to be happy is to understand that the word ‘happy’ is a verb aka doing word and to use that knowledge to act accordingly.

You should cultivate a strong relationship with yourself. By nurturing your self-esteem and getting to know yourself better–what you want and how to fulfill it–the likelier you’ll live a happy life regardless of whether you’ve amassed many material possessions.

  • 5. Letting others take away your personal time

The most important relationship you’ll ever have is the one with yourself. So when people try to guilt-trip you into sacrificing your precious personal time for them, don’t be scared to stamp your foot down and defend your time without shame or guilt.

Even if others don’t understand, feel free to take time out to be with yourself and to do the things that matter most to you. It’s your life, only you get to set the terms and conditions to it, and only you get to dictate how to spend your time.

  • 6. Letting others treat you badly

Everybody deserves to be treated well. No person should be subjected to mistreatment. If you have toxic people in your life who treat you badly you need to detach yourself from them. If they happen to be family or co-workers and it’s hard to separate from them then you should let them know you don’t appreciate the way they treat you. Most times, all it takes to stop being treated badly is standing up for ourselves.

We teach people how to treat us, so every time we let someone mistreat us we’re teaching them it’s okay to do so. It’s not, so cultivate relationships with people who treat you well and break off from people who mistreat you.

  • 7. Not constantly learning

We live in a rapidly ever-changing world. Yesterday’s knowledge may be too old for today. What you knew in the past might not be relevant today. So there is always something novel to learn and discover.

Having an open mind and a growth mindset will aid you in adapting to this ever-morphing world. So long as you maintain a positive attitude towards learning, so long as you do not erect a wall around your mind so that new ideas and ways of doing things don’t enter, you will be okay no matter good or bad weather.

Active Again

In every difficult situation is potential value. Believe this, then begin looking for it.

Norman Vincent Peale

Like a dormant volcano, my blog has been inactive very consistently recently. You most likely must’ve been wondering what happened to me? Did I kick the bucket? Or did I fall out of love with writing?

Rest assured I’m alive and well. My love for writing is greater than ever and dare I say better than ever. I’d love to regurgitate the excuse ”my studies as a Bachelor of English and Linguistics have kept me in a tight grip so much so that I didn’t get any time to update my blog” as the reason behind why I’ve neglected my duties as a blogger, but sadly I cannot.

Yes, my academic adventures in the literary arts took up most of my time, but quite frankly the primary factor behind why I haven’t been updating my blog is that I was–perhaps I still am–going through a phase at the end of which I’ll either be a better writer or not a writer at all. Through my studies, I’ve come to realize the metaphoric ramifications of antique adages like ”the pen is mightier than the sword”. As writers, we wield a mighty power, a double-edged power that can enlighten, heal, and inspire positivity yet also perpetuate prejudice and negativity. I don’t know about you, but that’s plenty of pressure for a guy who if left to his own devices will lock himself in the library and throw away the key.

Meanwhile, I was going through all this, too busy to update my blog with positive poetry and prose, you stuck by me. I did not lose any followers, in fact, I rather astonishingly gained a few more subscribers. For your divine show of loyalty and kindness, I thank you with all my heart. Thank you for not abandoning me. Thank you for staying with me. I sincerely appreciate it.

I’m on holiday now so I’ve got more time on my hands to pursue more of my passions. My heart is racing at the prospect of reacquainting myself to the fascinating and inspiring people here on the blogosphere. I can’t wait to apply what I’ve been learning on my blog, I can’t wait to immerse myself in the community.

As of today, this previously dormant volcano of a blog is going to be erupting with creativity.

Once again, thank you for remaining a follower of my blog…and like the Japanese say “Sayonara!”

The Blogosphere | A Place

Be patient, if something is supposed to happen, it’s going to happen.

Chiara Ferragni

It’s a world on its own
In time
I’ve come to call it my home
For not only
Is it the place where my heart is
It’s also where my craft is

It’s a place
to unleash my creativity
A place to hone my craft
A place to meet and greet
And get to know people that will show
You how to wow at the wonder of life.

It’s a place to get inspired
It is my favorite place

© Lazarus Shatipamba 2021

The Poets Peace

Fellow with the Cello

The most important trip you may take in life is meeting people halfway. Henry Boyle

Hello, I’m a fellow that plays the cello
With my crafty hands when I’m feeling mellow.
Wanting to put people in a mood yellow
Brighter then the colour of my skin negro.

I’m a fellow that likes to play the cello
Even when my hearts been pierced by cupids arrow
So that tomorrow I cannot feel the sorrow
Of losing the gifts bestowed by Apollo-

The son of Zeus that blessed me play the cello
Even at times when my mind was about to blow
And I thought I’d make it not into tomorrow
For I’m a fellow from an age long ago.

For I’m a fellow from an age long ago
That has for many a long year played his cello
Seated by the stream in the forest below
Where many animals have come to say hello.

Like the bird many call the swooping sparrow
Always drops down to peck at my long afro
Whenever it finds me playing the cello
Seated by the stream in the forest below.

One lovely day as I was playing my cello
And enjoying the sweet taste of homemade jello
It flew by to ask if it could perhaps borrow
My cello for a banquet scheduled tomorrow.

I stopped playing my cello
And I swallowed all my jello
Before I looked the bird in the eye and said “NO!
You my friend shall never have my cello”.

© 2019 The Poets Peace

Back In Action

Luck is a dividend of sweat. The more you sweat, the luckier you get.

Ray Kroc

Hey guys, its been two long weeks since last i updated my blog and its irked me a plenty being away from you guys for fourteen long days. Only my heart will ever know the magnitude of my missing you.

Though i hated doing it, it felt right to take a short break to regather my thoughts and to re-focus my mindset as a friend once advised me to always take short recovery breaks after working hard, which is something my pen will willingly testify to.

God knows i needed the rest, after wielding the powers of creativity in the form of penning a poem or more everyday, i was headed for a path of stumbling and falling over in the street as a consequence of exhaustion. Only a poet knows the toll it takes on their mind and body sacrificing a piece of their sanity to write poetry on a consistent basis.

I was gonna go completely crazy if i didn’t put my pen down sooner. But i’m back now and i’m glad to have taken a break as i’m back with a fresh, empty canvas just waiting in anticipation to be painted on with the beautiful message of love and peace.

I want to take the time to thank you for not deciding to unfollow me during the time i was away. In fact, thanks a lot for getting me to the 100 follower mark. You’re the best.

Forgotten Dreams

Things work out best for those who make the best of how things work out.

John Wooden

Another day has passed me by
But, i still can't recall my dreams to memory.
Can't seem to remember. The more i try, the more
Dreams always seem to elude me.
Each time it irks me more and more
For i would like to remember my dreams.
Good ones as well as bad ones--
Haunt me in my memories, when i cannot recall them.
I then begin to wonder
Just how hard i have to ponder--
Killing that which prevent's my dreams
Like an anti-dream journal, lucid dreams pass me by--
Many, many, many times. Yet,
Not a single
One have i dug from the rubble of my memory.
Please, please whichever GOD be listening,
Quiet my mind
Rest my thoughts
So that i may recall my dreams.
The more i try to
Understand my lack of
Visuals on what my dream was about, that's
When i feel myself loosing the dream.
X-mas always comes
Year after year. Yet the--
Zealousness of my mind never to remember my dreams, forever stays the same.

© 2020 The Poets Peace

A Nightmare within a Dream

When everything seems to be going against you, remember that the airplane takes off against the wind, not with it.

Henry Ford
Image by Bellinon from Pixabay

it all started so well,
when i began to fall
asleep on my bed,
no nightmares to b' had.

when i began to dream.
that i slept beneath a beam,
of the night's brightest smile,
and i woke to walk a mile,
on a scorched, barren earth
that laughed in the face of death.

i walked till my feet became numb.
walked till i stumbled into a stump--
on which was inscribed my name
and the day, died my life's flame--
i stood there, looking at my grave
with sore eyes, i buried my grief
and walked on to no great relief.

grave after grave did i tread by
of men and women that did defy,
the bad deeds of those that did belie
the dreams of those, never wanted to die.

with sore eyes, i buried my grief
and walked on to no great relief--
back to the place where i fell sleep.
just so i would have time to weep,

for the life i did not get to keep!

© 2019 The Poets Peace